Hey guys….it’s Tynisha!! As many of you know, I have three children, two teenagers and a preteen. For those of you with school-age children, you will understand my struggle when trying to get my 11-year-old to tell me how her day was at school. My go-to questions is “How was your day?” and she almost always gives me a one-word answer, such as “fine” or “good”. Sometimes I let it go depending on what else is going on but most days I want to know more. So how do I go about getting more out of her?? What I’ve found is that I cannot ask the same question because she is going to give me the same answer. Also, I need to be fun, creative, silly and ask something so off the wall that it makes her chuckle. Here are some fun examples:
Tell me something that made you laugh today (or cry).
If you could choose who would you like to sit by in class? (Who would you NOT want to sit by in class? Why?)
Where is the coolest place at the school?
Tell me a weird word that you heard today. (Or something weird that someone said.)
If an alien spaceship came to your class and beamed up someone who would you want them to take?
The answers you’ll get from these questions are great and sometimes really surprising.
Sometimes we just need to figure out the right kinds of questions to ask our children….some questions may work better for some kids than others. That’s how it is with my own children. But I want to know what is going on in their lives and how I can help them. So….I will continue to ask…and ask…and ask…
And, as my kids get older I know that I am going to have to work harder and harder to stay engaged with them…but I know its going to be worth the work…